I can’t believe I’m saying this, but having and raising a baby has been one of the easier parts of our three years of marriage. Today is our 3-year (leather) wedding anniversary (we got married on Feb 29, 2020), and it is quite remarkable how–in these three years–there have been so many life-changing events that parenthood seems like quite a trivial thing in comparison. Of course, it’s no small feat to raise a child, but compare it to this time last year, and the problems we face daily right now appear quite manageable, even with the challenges that come with a special-needs child.
It’s like it was yesterday, yet a lifetime ago since my wife and I stood at the altar and vowed to always be by each other’s side. Three years on, it’s hard to fathom exactly how much in-sickness-and-in-health that’s managed to fit into such a short period of time. When we got married, I thought about the fact that we were older than a lot of people when they got married, and that we won’t be able to say we’ve been married for 70 years. It’s easy to compare yourself to others, but during our short time together, I have come to realise that it’s not about the amount of years, but what you do with them and what you experience on your journey together.
It may take a lifetime for many people to experience what we’ve had in just three years
Throughout our past year, talking to various professionals and others about our difficulties, there’s been one recurring theme: their shock over the fact that it may take a lifetime for many people to experience what we’ve had in just three years. Add to the fact that since our wedding, the world has been through a pandemic and now a threat to the global stability (war in Ukraine), and you soon realise that the number of things we’ve been through could easily be stretched over thirty years.
Ultimately, I am just very grateful for having survived these last few years, even though it at times seemed like there was no future or hope. I am so fortunate and blessed to be married to someone who also matured and grew from a difficult past, because it has made us both resilient, and helped us stay together even when life threw us an overwhelming amount of curveballs all at once. It’s easy to be thankful during life’s ups, but throughout, we also continued being thankful during the downs, and I think that’s what ultimately brought us out of the deep valleys in one piece.
And let’s not forget about this little bundle of joy, who entered this world and helped us find happiness during a time when we also had a number of deaths in our families.
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